the long and short of it
i finally finished "sacred marriage." it got long but was still a worthy read considering i had never read a book on marriage. it was good to check in and see where i was & what i thought of this gracious gift in my life.... that is sometimes hard to see as god being gracious when it can be so much work. i am still overwhelmed by the reminder that my marriage is not here to make me happy - it is to make me holy. here are some more quotes that struck me:
"the opposite of biblical love isn't hate, it's apathy. to stop moving toward our spouse is to stop loving him or her. it's holding back from the very purpose of marriage."
marriage is a discipline of fellowship nurtured through three spiritual practices: "learning not to run from conflict, learning how to compromise, and learning to accept others. these practices will serve us well both in the church and in the home."
quote from the Whiteheads: "the challenge is not to keep on loving the person we thought we were marrying, but to love the person we did marry!"
"God is always worthy of being obeyed and served, so when i act out of obedience to him, the person who receives my service doesn't have to be deserving - they are benefiting from what i owe God." (i guess this applies to my spouse, right?!)
"instead of realizing that our true needs can be ultimately met only in god, some people keep trying to find their fulfillment in new relationships, thinking that what they really need is to find the "right person," which, when translated, usually means a new person. christianity does not direct us to focus on finding the right person; it calls us to become the right person."
"the opposite of biblical love isn't hate, it's apathy. to stop moving toward our spouse is to stop loving him or her. it's holding back from the very purpose of marriage."
marriage is a discipline of fellowship nurtured through three spiritual practices: "learning not to run from conflict, learning how to compromise, and learning to accept others. these practices will serve us well both in the church and in the home."
quote from the Whiteheads: "the challenge is not to keep on loving the person we thought we were marrying, but to love the person we did marry!"
"God is always worthy of being obeyed and served, so when i act out of obedience to him, the person who receives my service doesn't have to be deserving - they are benefiting from what i owe God." (i guess this applies to my spouse, right?!)
"instead of realizing that our true needs can be ultimately met only in god, some people keep trying to find their fulfillment in new relationships, thinking that what they really need is to find the "right person," which, when translated, usually means a new person. christianity does not direct us to focus on finding the right person; it calls us to become the right person."
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