scallops....yum!


so, this is what i made for the birthday dinner....scallops with hazelnut and browned butter vinaigrette over spring lettuce (from epicurious.com) for the main dish....starter was a gorgonzola cream fettucine (page 194: essentials of classic italian cooking). the scallop recipe called for white balsamic vinegar...never heard of it. i went with the regular kind....which changed the flavor just a bit and didn't really go with wine that had been recommended as a pairing.

of course, this was all colored by the fact that john did not really like his present.... he was kind & gracious....i was a pill. i let it ruin the whole evening.... even the yummy food. this made me realize (the morning after) that the gift giving had been about me, not him. it was about me trying to find the "perfect" gift, the most thoughtful present....and was totally paralyzed when it did not solicit the reaction and praise that i was seeking. i love being human. i love learning once again how to love another human being that is so different from me in ways that are good for him....not my ways. i want big & elaborate... he just wants thoughtfulness. he was just as pleased by the idea of the gift as he would have been by a gift that he actually liked. sometimes, i am glad he is a alien.... it helps me remember what is important.

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patti said…
Dontcha hate it...the whole gift thing is sort of annoying!! Happy Birthday to John!!
9:53 PM EDT
Peanutbutter said…
i love it when kathy reminds me what is important...
2:47 PM EDT
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